On entanglement, choice and our need to feel connected.
Sometimes you think of someone and their name appears on your phone. It feels charged, as if the thought and the message came from the same place.
Physics does not call that love. Quantum entanglement describes correlations between particles, not invisible messages between people. But the image stays with me: two things meet, change each other and remain connected after they move apart.
I like it as a metaphor because love also leaves evidence at a distance. Not mystical evidence. Ordinary things: the phrase you borrow, the decision you make differently, the person you call first. A relationship changes your state, and part of that change remains when the other person is not in the room.
Everything is possible until you choose
Schrödinger’s cat is another image we borrow too easily from physics. Still, the metaphor is useful. Before a decision, several lives can feel possible at once. Call or stay silent. Open up or hold back. Leave or remain.
Love is a feeling, but it is also a series of choices that collapses those possibilities into a life. Attention makes one path real. Repetition gives it weight.
What this has to do with design
Design begins in possibility too: drafts, directions, versions. The work becomes real when we choose, test and accept what the choice rules out.
The best products often feel inevitable after the fact. They were not. Someone removed competing possibilities until one clear form remained.
Connection works the same way. It is not found fully formed. It is made visible through attention.
Maybe love is quantifiable after all, not as a force or frequency, but through its effects. What changed because this person existed in your life? What choice became possible? What part of them do you still carry?
That is less magical than quantum physics. To me, it is more beautiful.
